How to help children believe in themselves and avoid failures in education? First of all, talk to them on equal terms and see full personalities in them. And most importantly, support children in any situation. This is the only way to raise confidence and healthy self -esteem in them, our expert believes.

See the personality

Use the subjective approach: do not teach the child what he needs, but perceive him as a full -fledged personality. A way to cultivate in a small interlocutor in himself – to communicate with him on an equal footing, listen to how he expresses feelings and what he says.

Support

Be on the side of the child, even when he is wrong. Support does not mean approving his behavior, support is to say that there are situations in which you can help him. Together, try to understand what the child wanted to say with his behavior, even if he dragged the cat by the tail. Offer options for solving the problem and assistance in correcting the situation.

Control yourself

The phrase “The child brought me” is not true. 99% of parents control emotions alone with the boss, but this program fails with children. Why? Children cannot “give change”, and therefore you can afford more than in communication with the leadership. But even one word spoken in hearts can seriously affect the child’s self -esteem.

Translate interest

If parents are always ready to substitute their shoulder to each other, then the child has the right to expect that they will support him. If you taught the child that there is nowhere

to wait for support, then it will only be possible to lament that he did not turn to you. Say him: “It is so important for me to know what is happening to you, otherwise I will not be able to support you”. And then he will know that they will help him anyway.

Show your weakness

All of us have periods of rise and periods of the decline. And we are all able to choose, move on or decide that this case is not for me. Let the child support you when you can’t do something, this is a wonderful experience for both.

Do not rush with conclusions

You see how your child hit on the site of another baby, and it seems to you that the latter was undeservedly? Take a hurry to blame. Imagine in their place adults. What will you do if your partner hit another? Try to figure out the reasons.